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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Reduce Stress Thinking: Manage automatic thinking to mistakes

December 18, 2016

Mental Short Cuts to resolving anxiety that comes from making Mistakes.

No one likes mistakes, but we all make them and inadvertently  have to deal with them. If you take mistakes more personally than you should where you allow errors to  disrupt your mood,  lower self -esteem and caught up in blaming  others then you need to know some mental techniques from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to reduce your negative thinking.  So what is the cognitive therapy secret to manage  mistakes so that they don’t become a source of anxiety, anger and stress?Cognitive Behavior Therapy NYC

People who see problems/mistakes as opportunities and things to work-out have the following  automatic reactive thinking to these situations:

CBT Tip 1. See the situation in numbers: They break it down to facts and figures.  What is the cost here? Can I afford these? Is there a way to increase my security? What is the cost/value  of that security?


CBT Tip 2. Accept external factor and constraints: They accept that life doesn’t operate based on ideals but reasonably consider and factor in practical features and limits. e.g.  Rather than seeing someone as disinterested recognize that they are not necessarily reliable due to scheduling problems.

CBT Tip 3. Get Active in  gathering information about what is available  They focus their mind to pay attention on what is possible by gathering the information necessary to get on.

CBT Tip 4. Expect Problems: They accept that not all factors are  within their control.  Therefore they reserve mental bank to deal with the expected but unknown stuff.

CBT Tip 5. Accept rational and reasonable responsibility.  Recognize that they made decisions based on knowledge and reasoning available at the time not what is available in the future.

Bad Mistake automatic thinking 

When people have anxiety and negative automatic thinking in reaction to stressful problem or mistakes it is because the mind  connects to parts of the brain that magnifies the  problem and gets stuck in focus on elements of “what is not fair..”it should have been this way”  and the loss itself..”if only if ” . Most likely because the error/problem was not  reasonably anticipated by the it sparks a threat reaction. 

Cognitive Behavior Therapy NYC

Cognitive Behavior Therapy NYC

The goal of the mental gymnastic exercise is to be able to prepare your brain to be flexible and be able to perform at its best during times of mistakes/problems. The result of this cognitive mental exercise is to increase mental certainty.

CBT Mental Gymnastic Reducing Anxiety around mistakes:

Sit down, close your eyes, visualize the situation where the mistake occurred.  Focus on where you are magnifying the outcome and the blame. Consider the following questions: What is the emotional part of the problem?  What is the hardest part to accept for this yourself ? Can you see yourself accepting the new outcome?  Repeat this  cognitive visualization 3 times.

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Dr, Jayme Albin is a Clinical Psychologist and Yoga Instructor she provides individual, couples and group format psychotherapy and mental performance coaching sessions in person or through telatherapy/phone sessions or video therapy via Facetime or Skype.

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Dr. Albin is an expert resolving anxiety and stress related problems in work, relationships and personal situations. She is an expert in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and EMDR, Biofeedback therapy, Virtual Reality Therapy, Mind Yoga Therapy and Organization and relationship Psychotherapy.

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